Cii Radio|Ayesha Ismail|18 May 2016|11 Sha’baan 1437
Friendship is an important factor in our lives. In some cases more time is spent with friends than with family.
A friend is someone you feel comfortable around and with whom you can be yourself. No pretenses. But what makes a good friend? A good friend is someone who accepts you for who you are… guides and supports you and accommodates your faults but also corrects you when you are wrong.
An old adage says “when times are dark, friends are few”. How many times have we seen this? When people are affluent and famous they have a string of friends.. But when their life takes a turn and they lose everything they have… Their friends also lose interest in them. A true friend is one that stands by you no matter what. We should try and choose friends that keep us on the straight path. Very often u hear that so and so was a good person until they started keeping bad company.
The Prophet (saw) said, “A man follows the religion of his friend; so each one should consider whom he makes his friend”
It’s important that we choose our friends correctly. Nabi (Saw) cautioned the believers to consider friends carefully as a person is influenced by the company he keeps.
No good can come of a friendship if your companion lures you into sin and takes you towards something that earns Allah’s displeasure.
Nabi(Saw) often spoke to the Sahabah about the value of a good friendship and emphasized the need to be surrounded by good people.
There are 3 types of friends…
Those that are necessary, supportive, the ones you can’t live without.
Those that are like medicine, beneficial for you but needed occasionally.
Those that are like a sickness, the type you don’t need at all.
We’ve all heard the saying that “you can choose your friends but not your family” so when choosing a friend we should choose them based on the same interest, value and beliefs as ourselves.
We should keep a distance from one who is not well mannered and gives no attention to what Islam is about or what pleases or displeased Allah.
Hazrat Ali Ibn Abi Talib(as) said “ a friend cannot be considered a friend unless he is tested on 3 occasions, in your time of need, behind your back and after your death.”
A true friend stands with you during times of happiness and sadness and shares those feelings with you. We reach a stage where we can confide in our friend… but we should also be weary that a quarrel could occur and the friend could divulge our inner most secret out of anger.
So we should take heed before the inevitable happens and we will have to answer for our actions.
Next time you make a friend; ask yourself whether the companionship will earn the pleasure or displeasure of Allah and whether it can be a means of you attaining Jannah. May Allah grant us the understanding. Inshallah.