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“Food for the Soul”-Kindness to your Wife

Subject: Kindness to your Wife

Allah, The Most Exalted, says:
And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.(Qur’aan 30:21)

The Noble Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is reported to have said:
“The most perfect of the believers is the best of you in character, and the best of you are those among you who are best to their wives.” (Hadith-Al-Tirmidhi)

Note: The duty of every husband to be loving, affectionate and caring to his spouse. Nobody is perfect and we should always try to overlook the faults of our spouse. The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) is reported to have said that “ If he dislikes something in her character, he should be pleased with some other trait of hers.”(Hadith-Muslim).

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Words are Physicians

Words are Physicians…
“They provide healing”

A boy Abdulla was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and Abdulla was the apple of their eyes.

One morning, the husband saw a medicine bottle open. As he was late for work, he asked his beloved wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. The mother, who was preoccupied in the kitchen, totally forgot to close the bottle.

Abdulla playfully went to the medicine bottle and fascinated with its colour, drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child started shivering and showed signs of poisoning, the mother immediately drove him to the nearby hospital. Despite desperate effort by the emergency trauma unit, doctors were unable to the save little Abdulla and he died in his mothers loving arms. With tears flowing incessantly from her eyes,she recited “innalillahe wa ina ilayhe rajeun“-To Allah we belong and unto Him shall we return.[This prayer was thought to us by the Messenger of Allah peace be upon him when we encounter any loss]

“Be sure We shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods, lives, and the fruits of your toil. But give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere. Those who say, when afflicted with calamity, ‘To Allah we belong, and to Him is our return.’ They are those on whom descend blessings from their Lord, and mercy. They are the ones who receive guidance.” (Quran-2:155-157)

The mother was in a state of shock. She was too terrified to face her husband. Gaining her composure after a few minutes she built up the courage to call her husband and inform him of the tragedy.

When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw Abdulla, his one and only child lying motionless before him, tears flowed like a river from his eyes…he looked at his wife and uttered just four words.

QUESTIONS :

1. What were the four words ?
2. What is the implication of this story ?
Check with the answers only after you have tried to come up with your
own.

Please scroll down ………..

ANSWERS:

The husband just said ” I Love You Darling .”
The husband’s totally unexpected reaction is proactive behaviour.
He is indeed gifted by Allah with wisdom and a genius in human relationships. The child is dead. Allah mentions in the Quran: ” Every soul shall taste of death” [Quran 21:35]

Abdulla can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother on this occasion. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her. If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world.

Always be positive in adverse conditions. Allah say:”Those who suppress their anger, and forgive other people – assuredly, Allah loves those who do good.”(Quran: 3/134)

There is an alternative to thinking about people, life and the world…You can see the possibilities and opportunities for growth, happiness, wellness and strength….its up to you!
Posted by E ISLAM

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