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• ‘A’isha radhiyallahu anha said: Abu Bakr radhiyallahu anhu said, “By Allah, there is no man on the face of the earth that I love better than ‘Umar radhiyallahu anhu.” Then he went out and came back and said, “How did I swear, daughter?” I told him what he had said. Then he said, “He is dearer to me although one’s child is closer (to one’s heart).”

• Ibn Abi Nu’m radhiyallahu anhu said, “I was with Ibn ‘Umar radhiyallahu anhu when a man asked him about the blood of gnats (insects). He asked, “Where are you from?” “From the people of Iraq,” he replied. He said, “Look at this man! He asks about the blood of gnats when they murdered the grandson of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam! I heard Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam say, “They are my sweet basil in this world.”

• Al-Bara’ radhiyallahu anhu said, “I saw Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam when al-Hasan radhiyallahu anhu was on his shoulder. He was saying, “O Allah, I love him, so love him.”

• Anas radhiyallahu anhu said, “One day I visited Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam, and there was only myself, my mother and my aunt, Umm Hiram radhiyallahu anha. When he came to us, he asked us, “Shall I pray with you?” It was not the time of an obligatory prayer.” One of those listening to the person relating this asked, “Where did he put in Anas radhiyallahu anhu in relation to him?” The reply was, “He put him to his right.” The report from Anas radhiyallahu anhu continues, “Then he prayed with us and made supplication for us, the people of the house, that we would have the best of the blessings of this world and the Next. My mother said, “Messenger of Allah, make supplication to Allah for your little servant,” and he asked Allah to grant me every blessing. At the end of his supplication, he said, “O Allah, grant him a lot of money and many children and bless him!”

• Anas ibn Malik radhiyallahu anhu said, “A woman came to ‘A’isha radhiyallahu anha and ‘A’isha radhiyallahu anha gave her three dates. She gave each of her two children a date and kept one date for herself. The children ate the two dates and then looked at their mother. She took her date and split in it two and gave each child half of it. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam came and ‘A’isha radhiyallahu anha told him about it. He said, “Are you surprised at that? Allah will show her mercy because of her mercy towards her child.”

• ‘A’isha radhiyallahu anha said, “A bedouin came to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam and asked, “Do you kiss your children? We do not kiss them.” Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, “Can I put mercy in your hearts after Allah has removed it from them?”

• Abu Hurayrah radhiyallahu anhu said, “Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam kissed Hasan ibn ‘Ali radhiyallahu anhu while al-Aqra’ ibn Habis at-Tamimi radhiyallahu anhu was sitting with him. Al-Aqra’ radhiyallahu anhu observed, “I have ten children and I have not kissed any of them.” Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam looked at him and said, “Whoever does not show mercy will not be shown mercy.”

• Numayr ibn Aws radhiyallahu anhu said, “They used to say, “Correct action is a gift from Allah, but good etiquette comes from the parents.”

• An-Nu’man ibn Bashir radhiyallahu anhu said that his father had carried him to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. He said, “Messenger of Allah, I testify to you that I have given an-Nu’man radhiyallahu anhu such and-such (it was a slave). Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam asked, “Have you given each of your children the same?” “No,” he replied. He said, “Then testify to someone other than me.” Then Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam asked, “Do you not want to show equal kindness to all of them?” “Indeed I do,” he replied. He said, “Then do not do it.”

• Ibn ‘Umar radhiyallahu anhu said, “Allah has called them the ‘dutiful’ because they are dutiful to their parents and children. Just as you have a duty which you owe your parent, so you have a duty which you owe your child.”

• Jarir ibn ‘Abdullah radhiyallahu anhu said, “Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, “Allah will not show mercy to someone who does not show mercy to people.”

• ‘A’isha radhiyallahu anhu said, “Some bedouins came to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. One of their men said to him, “Messenger of Allah, do you kiss children? By Allah, we do not kiss them.” Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, “Can I put mercy in your hearts after Allah has removed it from them?”

• Abu ‘Uthman radhiyallahu anhu reported that ‘Umar radhiyallahu anhu wanted to appoint a man as governor. The governor said, “I have such-and-such a number of children and I have never kissed any of them.” ‘Umar radhiyallahu anhu said, “Allah will only show mercy to the kindest of His slaves.”

• Abu Hurayrah radhiyallahu anhu reported that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, “Allah has divided mercy into one hundred parts. He kept ninety-nine parts and sent down one part to earth. Because of that one single part, creatures are merciful to one another so that even the mare will lift its hooves away from its foal so that it does not trample on it.”

(Above narrations all quoted from Adabul Mufrad by Bukhari)

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