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My husband divorced me three times in one sitting – What can I do in this situation?

Question

My husband divorced me three times in one sitting. He were having quarrel at that time and he uttered divorce then take a pause and again said divorce two three times. After two days he takes his divorce back but send me to my parents home. Now saying to remain there without saying how long. I m at my parents home from eid-ul fitr. We are married from the last seven years and having two sons. We were having quarrels before this also. Now he is saying that he does not love me. This really hurts me because i love him. I am very much deprresed and i have kept my elder son there. Please help me what should i do and also is it permissible in islam. Plz help me.

Answer

In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.

 

We note you were married for seven years and were experiencing problems. You tolerated all this. Surely you must have cried and made Dua to Allah Ta’ala.

Allah Ta’āla promises in the Holy Quran,

فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا

Verily with difficulty there is ease. (Qur’ān 94:5)

 

It is most unfortunate that your ex-husband could not contain himself and issued you three divorces which are effective and your Nikah has terminated permanently.[1] Your Iddah (waiting period) commenced from the time you were issued the three divorces.[2]

 

 

Sister, Allah Ta’ala knows best why this happened. Place your trust in Allah and submit to His will. Patience and Endurance is greatly rewarding.

Take strength from Sabr and Salah. Turn to Allah. He controls our hearts and He will grant you all the strength to go through this.

May Allah Ta’ala make the future bright and prosperous for you and your children. Ameen.

 

And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best

Huzaifah Deedat

Student Darul Iftaa
Lusaka, Zambia 

Checked and Approved by,
Mufti Ebrahim Desai.

 


[1] الفتاوى الهندية (1/ 473)

وَإِنْ كَانَ الطَّلَاقُ ثَلَاثًا فِي الْحُرَّةِ وَثِنْتَيْنِ فِي الْأَمَةِ لَمْ تَحِلَّ لَهُ حَتَّى تَنْكِحَ زَوْجًا غَيْرَهُ نِكَاحًا صَحِيحًا وَيَدْخُلَ بِهَا ثُمَّ يُطَلِّقَهَا أَوْ يَمُوتَ عَنْهَا كَذَا فِي الْهِدَايَةِ

المبسوط للسرخسي – (ج 6 / ص 47 دار الفكر) 

والثاني: أنه إذا طلقها ثلاثا جملة يقع ثلاثا عندنا والزيدية من الشيعة يقولون تقع واحدة والأمامية يقولون لا يقع شيء

البناية شرح الهداية (5/ 474) 

وإن كان الطلاق ثلاثا في الحرة وثنتين في الأمة لم تحل له حتى تنكح زوجا غيره نكاحا صحيحا ويدخل بها، ثم يطلقها، أو يموت عنها،

العناية شرح الهداية (4/ 177) 

(وَإِنْ كَانَ الطَّلَاقُ ثَلَاثًا فِي الْحُرَّةِ أَوْ ثِنْتَيْنِ فِي الْأَمَةِ لَمْ تَحِلَّ لِلزَّوْجِ الْأَوَّلِ حَتَّى تَنْكِحَ زَوْجًا غَيْرَهُ نِكَاحًا صَحِيحًا وَيَدْخُلَ بِهَا ثُمَّ يُطَلِّقَهَا أَوْ يَمُوتَ عَنْهَا لِقَوْلِهِ تَعَالَى {فَإِنْ طَلَّقَهَا فَلا تَحِلُّ لَهُ مِنْ بَعْدُ حَتَّى تَنْكِحَ زَوْجًا غَيْرَهُ} [البقرة: 230]

النتف في الفتاوى للسغدي (1/ 327) 

وَلَو قَالَ رجل لامْرَأَته انت طَالِق ثَلَاثًا وَنوى وَاحِدَة اَوْ قَالَ انت طَالِق وَاحِدَة وَنوى ثَلَاثًا فَلَا يكون الا مَا تلفظ بِهِ وَالنِّيَّة فِيهَا لَغْو

كتاب الفتاوي، ج5، ص109 

احسن الفتاوي، ج5، ص129

فتاوي عثماني، ج2، ص412-418

فتاوي محموديه، ج 18، ص 259-260،

[2] The Iddah for a woman experiencing menses is three menstrual cycles. If she does not experience menses, it will be three months. If she has conceived, her Iddah will be till birth

وَالْمُطَلَّقَاتُ يَتَرَبَّصْنَ بِأَنْفُسِهِنَّ ثَلَاثَةَ قُرُوءٍ وَلَا يَحِلُّ لَهُنَّ أَنْ يَكْتُمْنَ مَا خَلَقَ اللَّهُ فِي أَرْحَامِهِنَّ إِنْ كُنَّيُؤْمِنَّ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الْآخِرِ وَبُعُولَتُهُنَّ أَحَقُّ بِرَدِّهِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ إِنْ أَرَادُوا إِصْلَاحًا وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّبِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ وَاللَّهُ عَزِيزٌ حَكِيمٌ (البقرة: 228)

وَالَّذِينَ يُتَوَفَّوْنَ مِنْكُمْ وَيَذَرُونَ أَزْوَاجًا يَتَرَبَّصْنَ بِأَنْفُسِهِنَّ أَرْبَعَةَ أَشْهُرٍ وَعَشْرًا فَإِذَا بَلَغْنَ أَجَلَهُنَّ فَلَاجُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِيمَا فَعَلْنَ فِي أَنْفُسِهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَاللَّهُ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرٌ (البقرة: 234)

(الفتاوى العالمكيرية، كتاب الطلاق، الباب الثالث عشر: 1/526؛ رشيدية) 

هي انتظار مدة معلومة يلزم المرأة بعد زوال النكاح حقيقة أو شبهة

(الدر المختار المطبوع برد المحتار، كتاب الطلاق، باب العدة: 3/520؛ سعيد)

( ومبدأ العدة بعد الطلاق و ) بعد ( الموت ) على الفور ( وتنقضي العدة وإن جهلت ) المرأة (بهما ) أي بالطلاق والموت لأنها أجل فلا يشترط العلم بمضيه

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