Allah Ta’aala says “And among His signs is this,that He created for you mates from among yourselves,that you may dwell in tranquility with them,and He has put love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect.”[30.21]
Marriage is such a great blessing from Allah Ta’aala, it is a completion of Half our Deen. All we have to do is fulfill the other half.
My dear sisters, it is very important for us to sit back and think of our behavior towards our husbands.
Yes many a times they are wrong,but we make mistakes too. We are at times insensitive & moody. Yet they are still there for us.
Your husband is your guardian, he is there to protect you,love you and be there for you at all times.
Be grateful that he has chosen you as his wife, to live with forever(ان شاء اللّه)
Speak to him with respect,never yell at your husband or use such terms as “shut up” etc.
Never swear at him or degrade him in front of anyone.
If you dislike something about him bring it to his attention in the most gentle way.
Sometimes as a wife you have to compromise more than a man,when he is speaking listen to him and give him the respect he deserves.
Take time to read the following ahaadith and let us ponder over the way we speak to our husbands and how we treat them. Remember a man needs respect whereas a woman’s main need is “love”.
Abu Huraira رضي اللّه عنه reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “If a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses him, causing him to be angry during the night, then the angels will curse her until the morning.”
Source: Sahih Bukhari 3065, Sahih Muslim 1736
Jabir رضي اللّه عنهreported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Iblees placed his throne over the water and then he sends out his troops. The nearest to him are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: I have done this and this. Iblees says: You have done nothing. Another says: I did not leave this person until I caused discord between him and his wife. Iblees says: You have done well.”
Source: Sahih Muslim 2813
Abu Huraira رضي اللّه عنه reported: It was said to the Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, “Which woman is best?” The Prophet said, “The one who pleases her husband when he looks at her, who obeys him when he commands her, and she does not contradict him regarding herself or her property in anything he disapproves.”
Source: Sunan An-Nasa’i 3231
Abu Huraira رضي اللّه عنه reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “If I were to order anyone to prostrate to another, I would have ordered a wife to prostrate before her husband.”
Source: Sunan At-Tirmidhi
Al-Hussein ibn Muhsan رضي اللّه عنه reported: A woman came to the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, with a need and when she finished explaining her need, the Prophet said to her, “Do you have a husband?” She said, “Yes.” The Prophet said, “How are you with him?” She said, “I do not neglect him unless I am unable.” The Prophet said, “Examine yourself regarding him, for verily, he is your Paradise or your Hellfire.”
Source: Musnad Ahmad 18610
Abdur Rahman ibn Awf رضي اللّه عنه reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “When a woman prayers her five prayers, she fasts her month, she guards her chastity, and she obeys her husband, then it will be said to her: Enter Paradise from whichever gate you wish.”
Source: Musnad Ahmad 1664
May Allah make us the best wives to our husbands. امين
What to read for those who have their Haidh
●All types of zikr
● durood upon the Prophet (صَلَّي الّلهُ عَلَيْهِ وَ سَلَّمْ)
● Munaajat e maqbool
●Salaat n salaam
●Muraaqabah of maut(ponder on death)
●Alot of dua and Taubah
●Read the following dua
أَعُوذُ بِعَفْوِكَ مِنْ عِقَابِكَ وَأَعُوذُ بِرِضَاكَ مِنْ سَخَطِكَ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْكَ لَا أُحْصِي ثَنَاءً عَلَيْكَ أَنْتَ كَمَا أَثْنَيْتَ عَلَى نَفْسِكَ
A’oozu bi’afwiker min iqawbika were a’oozu biridawker min sakhatika were a’oozu bika minker laa uh-see thanaa’an alayker anter kamaa athnayter alaa nafsik
(O’ Allah) I take refuge in your forgiveness from your punishment, and I take refuge in your pleasure from your anger and I take refuge in you from you. I cannot praise you as you ought to be praised. You are as you have praised yourself. (Shuabul Imaan)[Note: it is permissible for a female to make wudhu and sit on her musallah and make dua etc.]