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Quick Tips for bringing up children

By Khalifah ‘Umar ibn ‘Abdul ‘Aziz (rahimahullah)

Compiled by Moulana Muhammad Abbasomar (Madda Zilluhu)

Khalifah ‘Umar ibn ‘Abdul ‘Aziz (rahimahullah) wrote the following instructions to his children’s mentor:

“Be strict on them for this is more effective in restraining them. Stop them from sleeping after Fajr Salaah, for this causes stupidity / negligence. They should laugh less for a lot of laughing kills the heart / soul. Let the first thing you inculcate in them be the hatred for Music, for I have heard from various People of Knowledge (‘Ulamaa) that Music develops hypocrisy in the heart just as water grows grass. Each of them should commence the day with the recitation of the Holy Quran in the proper manner. When they complete that, they should take their bows and arrows and proceed barefooted to the range. Each of them should shoot 7 times. Thereafter they should take mid-day sleep (siesta). For Sayyiduna ‘Abdullah ibn Mas’ood (radiyallahu’anhu) use to say: Oh my children! Take siesta, for verily the devils do not do so.” (Kitaabu Zhammil Malahi of Hafiz Ibn abi Dunya pg. 9)

Morals

These words of Khalifah ‘Umar ibn ‘Abdil ‘Azeez (rahimahullah) give us the following lessons on upbringing of children:
1. To commence the day with the recitation of the Quran
2. Not to sleep after Fajr (until after sunrise at least)
3. To abstain from music
4. To laugh less
5. Engagement in physical activity, like archery
6. The importance of siesta (qailoolah)

Each of the above are valuable lessons of life, which we as adults can implement and also inculcate in our children.

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