Nasihah (Advice): Taking care of one’s parents
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam said: “May that person be disgraced. May that person be disgraced. May that person be disgraced – who has his parents – one or both of them – reaching old age and yet he does not enter paradise (because of lack of service to them).” (Muslim)
Question and Answer:
- A mother has passed away. The father is living and is blind. Whose responsibility is it to take care of the father? Is it the responsibility of the brother and sister-in-law or the sister and brother-in-law (son or daughter)?
(Question published as received)
- The responsibility of taking care of ones parents is the responsibility of the son and the daughter. It is not the responsibility of the son-in-law and daughter-in-law to take care of their father in law. If the son-in-law and daughter-in-law willingly do so, they will be greatly rewarded for it. Thus, the son and daughter should equally accept the responsibility of taking care of the father and should endeavour to serve him to the best of their ability.
However the primary responsibility to house the father is the responsibility of the son. As far as the daughter is concerned, the daughter’s primary responsibility (after marriage) is to take care of her husband and children. She should do whatever she can for her elderly father without compromising the rights of her husband.
And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ismaeel Bassa
Mufti Ebrahim Desai