by Megan Wyatt
Founder, Wives of Jannah
Adam and Hawa were THE first married couple for all of humanity, and they were fully aware of the magnificence of their Lord. Yet even they slipped when Shaytan tempted them to eat from the forbidden tree in Jannah.
What is most significant for me in this turning moment in human history is not their mistake, but that they wanted to turn back to Allah and seek his forgiveness.
“They said, ‘Our Lord, we have wronged ourselves! If You do not forgive us and have mercy upon us, we will surely be among the losers.’” (7:23)
Then we are told in The Qur’an “Then Adam learned certain words from his Lord, so He turned to him. Surely He, He is Oft-returning, the most Rewarding.” (2:37) Scholars say those “words” were how to repent, and Allah forgave them.
As a married couple, there may be a time when one or both of you find yourselves slipping off of the path of Islam. For some couples, there is a period of realization that they have been far from Allah, and the hearts awaken with a desire to strive more in worship and good deeds.
This is actually an ideal time not just to work on strengthening your iman, but also your marriage. By having heart to heart conversations with your spouse about your aspirations to improve as a Muslim, and opening up about some of your worries, concerns, and dreams, you are able to bring your hearts closer for the sake of Allah. When you or your spouse knows what’s going on in your heart, you can be more supportive in helping each other move forward.
Maybe you will help get your husband up for fajr if he’s been sleeping in, or he’ll remind you to pray because you are almost missing your prayers being distracted with the children. As a couple, perhaps you once used credit cards, and now you are ready to pay them off, and live within your means, or you have both decided to change the kinds of entertainment you watch together.
For others, it’s a desire to implement the Sunnah during times of anger, or finally admitting that neither of you are behaving in a way that is earning your hassanat.
We are in the same struggle as human beings to remain on the Straight Path, and there is no doubt that marriage can be a source of support if a couple makes a consistent effort to support one and other in staying on that path, seeking the Mercy and Hope of Allah, and looking out for one and other in this journey of life.
No matter the struggle, one can always turn back to Ar-Rahman and move forward again.
Allah says about repentance:
(And whoever does evil or wrongs himself but afterwards seeks Allah’s forgiveness, he will find Allah Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.) (4:110)
It was reported in Sahih Muslim that Anas bin Malik, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “The Messenger of Allah said:
Allah is more pleased with the repentance of His servant than anyone of you who loses his riding beast in a barren land, and it was carrying his food and drink; he despairs of ever finding it, so he comes to a tree and lies down in its shade, having given up all hope of finding his riding beast; then whilst he is there like that, suddenly he sees it standing near him, so he takes hold of its reins and because of his great joy he says, “O Allah,You are my slave and I am Your Lord!” ( i.e: he makes a mistake because of his great joy. ”ours
Ask yourself: How can taubah renew your iman, and your marriage for the sake of Allah?