Hazrat Aa’isha (radiyal laahu anhaa) reports that nabi(sal lal laahu alay hi wa sal lam) said :”The best amongst you is he who is the best to his family and I am the best to my family.” (Tirmizi)
Hazrat Hakeem ibn Muaawiyaa Al Qushayri reports from his father that he said : “O Messenger of Allah (sal lal laahu alay hi wa sal lam)! What are the rights of our wives over us? He (sal lal laahu alay hi wa sal lam) said: “That you feed her when she desires this, that you clothe her when she requires clothes, that you do not strike her on the face, that you are not obscene and foul in speech with her and you do not separate from her except within the home.”
Hazrat Laqeet ibn Sabirah(radiyal laahu anhu) reports,that he said :”O Messenger of Allah(sal lal laahu alay hi wa sal lam), I have a wife who is vile in speech. He(sal lal laahu alay hi wa sal lam) said :”divorce her!”
I said:”I have a child from her and furthermore I have a long standing relationship with her.”
He (sal lal laahu alay hi wa sal lam) said,”Admonish her and if there is good in her she will accept(your adminishment) and do not beat your wife as you would do to your slave.”(Abu Dawood)
Hazrat Aa’isha (radiyal laahu anha) reports that the Messenger of Allah (sal lal laahu alayhi wa sal lam) said: ”The most complete believers in faith are those who are best in character and most compassionate to their families.” (Tirmizi)
Hazrat Abu Huraira (radiyal laahu anhu) reports that the messenger of Allah(sal lal laahu alay hi wa sal lam) said : ”If a man has two wives and he fails to mete out justice between them, on the day of Qiyaamah he will be raised up in a state where his side will be incapacitated. (Tirmizi)
Hazrat Abdullah ibn Zam’aa(radiyal laahu anhu) said that the messenger of Allah (sal lal laahu alay hi wa sal lam) said: ”One of you should not beat your wives as a servant is beaten and thereafter at the end of the day cohabit with her. (Bukhari & Muslim)
THE HUSBAND –THE CAREGIVER
In a day and age where sadly the abuse and ill-treatment of women have earned common place within Muslim societies, we need to redirect ourselves to the teachings of our beloved Nabi(sal lal laahu alay hi wa sal lam) wherein we are cautioned with regards to the fulfillment of their rights.
Being the weaker and more vulnerable creation of Allah Ta’aala, Allah Ta’aala through the avenue of nikaah, has placed them under “caregivers” in the form of husbands. These “caregivers” are expected to love, cherish and honour those that Allah Ta’aala has placed under their custody.
However Islam has also acknowledged the fact that not every two people joined by the bonds of nikaah,are destined to be together till death. Incompatibilities, differences and an array of other issues feature in every human relationship.
When the afore-said become unbearable and put undue strain on the relationship and on life itself,then Allah Ta’aala,once again only through his sheer grace and mercy has created an avenue of release from this miserable and burdensome situation in the form of “Talaaq” (divorce).The Quraanul Kareem is explicit in this regard where Allah Ta’aala commands the husband “To release them honorably” (Surah Baqaraa-verse:229).This directive is issued to the husband when all hopes of a reconciliation have been shattered and all attempts at a reconciliation have failed.Witholding a woman in his nikaah without any justifiable shar’ee reason and further oppressing her as we find today is agrave sin and an act of oppression for which severe warnings have been issued by Allah Ta’aala and his Rasul (Sal lal laahu alay hi wa sal lam).
May Allah Ta’aala firstly and foremostly protect our marriages and fill them with brimming love and compassion and should the time come,for which we seek the protection of Allah Ta’aala,to go our separate ways and start a new life,then we ask of him to endow us with the taufeeq to act in an honorable and dignified manner.aameen
NOTE : This article is in no way intended to advocate Talaaq. Its aim is to prevent the oppression of woman which is becoming widespread within the Muslim society.