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Goodbye Girlfriend! Welcome Wife!

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Alhamdulillah, Allah has granted us a great favour by choosing Islam as our Deen. Allah, the Exalted, says:  “Today I have perfected your Deen for you, completed My bounty upon you and chosen Islam as your Deen.” (Surah Al-Mai’dah, 5:3)

Islam is an all-encompassing and holistic way of life. It takes into account all of the human needs: spiritual, emotional and physical.  It encourages marriage and has made it the only means through which we can satisfy our sexual needs. In fact, according to many scholars, though marriage is a highly recommended act, it becomes obligatory once there is a risk of getting involved in a sin.

Unfortunately many Brothers are living a very promiscuous life these days. A number of them are involved in premarital relationships while others are even having extra-marital relationships with girls/women. 

These Brothers who are involved in these immoral acts can actually be divided into three common categories:

1.   Brothers who are in unlawful relationship with a single girl either with the aim of having fun with her or with the sincere intention of marrying her. Whatever your motive may be, she is haraam for you. Some of you get engaged to her thinking that once you are engaged to her she becomes halaal for you. 

No Brother, your fiancée is not your wife therefore she is not halaal for you till you have a Nikah with her, period! 

2.  Then there are those who have relations with several girls at a time (these are the lads who are usually  termed as ‘Playboys’). Every time you find a new girlfriend you feel a sense of pride in you. You take the new relationship as a feather in your cap

No Brother, this relationship is not a feather in your cap but in real sense it is something that can cause a black spot in your heart. Yes, by being alone with her you are bound to be involved in a sin and this creates a black spot in your heart as is stated in the following Hadeeth: Abu Huraira reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, when the servant commits a sin a black spot appears upon his heart…” Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 3334. If Allah has endowed you a luxurious life that includes wealth, a splendid house, a porsche car etc. and has also blessed you  with very good looks, then do not use these bounties to cause His wrath because you are answerable to Him tomorrow in the Hereafter.

3.    Then there are Brothers who are involved in Extramarital affairs. These are the relationships outside of marriage where an illicit romantic or sexual relationship or a romantic friendship or a passionate attachment occurs. This practice is not only totally forbidden in Islam, it is also disliked by all societies of the world, however liberal they might be. Being unfaithful to your wife is disliked by majority of the people all around the world.

Please fear Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala because He is always watching every move of yours. Keep away from all types of sins. Do not ruin the everlasting life of the Hereafter for the Trivial life of this Duniya! What answer are you going give Him for the sins you are committing here? 

On the other hand, if a person leaves a sin for the pleasure of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta‘ala, he will enjoy rewards in both the worlds: in this world as well as the Hereafter.

By: M. B. Ahmed

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