Allah Ta’ala has placed us in this world to test us. In the Qur’aanul Kareem Allah Ta’ala states:
“He who has created death and life in order to test which of you are best in actions and He is the most exalted, The most forgiving” (Suratul Mulk, verse 2)
Part of “ best actions” is how we interact with others. Our socializing with our fellow human beings in a good and kind manner is indicative of Imaan and constitutes good character which is the hallmark of Islam. However, we find nowadays that a person is good and kind to others around him whilst his family is excluded from his goodness and kindness. In Islam, there is no virtue in this. Nabi Sallallaahu alaihi wasallam is reported to have said, “ The best of you is he who is best to his family”.
In issue the rights of the wife in Islam was discussed. In this issue we focus on the rights of the husband.
Hadrat Abu Umaamah Radiyallaahu anhu reports that Nabi Sallallaahu alaihi wasallam said: “ After Taqwa (fear of Allah Ta’ala), a believer gains nothing better for himself than a good wife who is righteous and obeys him if he gives her a command. She pleases him if he looks at her. She fulfils the vow taken by him to do something (that is according to Shar’ iah). She is faithful and sincere to him regarding her person and his property in his absence.” (Ibn Maajah)
Hadrat Abdullah ibn Amr Radiyallaahu anhu said that the Messenger of Allah Sallallaahu alaihi wasallam said: “The world in all its entirety is a provision and it’s; best provision; is a righteous woman” (Muslim)
Hadrat Mu’aaz Radiyallaahu anhu reports that Nabi Sallallaahu alaihi wasallam said:
“No woman annoys her husband in this world except that his wife from amongst the wide-eyed damsels (houris) of Jannah say to her: “Do not annoy him. May Allah Ta’ala seize you! He is only a passing guest with you and is about to leave you to come to us.”
Hadrat Umme Salamah Radiyallaahu anhaa said that the Messenger of Allah Sallallaahu alaihi wasallam said : “Any woman who dies whilst her husband is pleased with her will enter Jannah.”(Tirmizi)
Hadrat Abu Huraira Radiyallaahu anhu reports that Nabi Sallallaahu alaihi wasallam has said: “ If I were to command anyone to prostrate before anyone else ( besides Allah Ta’ala), I would have definitely commanded a woman to prostrate before her husband.”
THE HUSBAND – A WOMAN’S GATEWAY TO JANNAH.
Allah Ta’ala says in the Qur’aanul Kareem :
“Men are the overseers of woman by virtue of the preference given by Allah Ta’ala to some of them over others (i.e. men and woman) and on account of them spending from their wealth (on woman) (Suratun Nisaa, verse: 34)
Allah Ta’ala has created both man and woman as equals and as an extension of this equality Allah Ta’ala has afforded them both equal rights, contrary to the popular misconception that in Islam a man enjoys a superior position than woman.
However, what needs to be borne in mind is that in spite of woman and man being equal in the sight of Allah Ta’ala, Who in His infinite wisdom, has allotted different roles to both the male and female species of His creation.
A man has been given a role as “Head of the house” by virtue of his being stronger physically, mentally and emotionally. These plus characteristics make him most worthy of assuming roles of leadership. On the other hand the soft, caring, and sentimental disposition of a woman ideally suits her for the roles of caring, nurturing and upbringing When these roles are effectively played by the repective role players, its result is an almost picture perfect, loving and harmonious family unit. But no sooner than these roles are reversed or underplayed one should brace oneself to usher in a life of untold grief, hurt, pain and misery.
Thus on account of the husband being the head of the household, Allah Ta’ala has afforded him certain rights.These, inter-alia, include :
• The right to being loved and cared for.
• The right to be respected and obeyed (Naturally to instructions that do not contravene Shar’iah)
• The right to having his property and possessions preserved and guarded.
• The right to having his offspring cared for and those near and dear to him.
Should every woman fulfill these RIGHTS, then Insha-Allah, no man would ever have to say “I have the WRONG woman in my life”.
As more and more marriages reach their ends, let every woman take heed of the beautiful words of our beloved Nabi Sallallaahu alaihi wasallam where he is reported to have said,
“If I were to command anyone to prostrate before anyone else, then I would surely command the woman to prostrate before her husband”.
This hadeeth should suffice in showing the position of a husband in Islam.
May Allah Ta’ala preserve and protect every marriage and grant every husband and wife the ability to fulfil their marital obligations so that our society can become one of peace, love and harmony and so that every wife may attain Jannah by means of her husband. Aameen