A well – known actress confirms:
“So, for every teen girl leaning into her bedroom mirror, wondering why she doesn’t look like a celebrity: Please know that nobody wakes up like this. Not me. Not any other actress.
Here’s the real deal: Before each public appearance, I spend 90 minutes in a makeup chair. Three to six people work on my hair and makeup, while a professional touches up my nails. My eyebrows are tweezed and threaded every week. There’s concealer on parts of my body that I could never have predicted would need concealing.
I’m up at 6am every day and at the gym by 7:30. I exercise for 90 minutes and, some evenings, again before bed. It’s someone’s full-time job to decide what I can and cannot eat. There are more ingredients in my face packs than in my food. There’s a team dedicated to finding me flattering outfits.
After all, that, if I’m still not “flawless” enough, there are generous servings of Photoshop.
I’ve said it before, and I will keep saying it: It takes an army, a lot of money, and an incredible amount of time to make a female celebrity look the way she does when you see her. It isn’t realistic, and it isn’t anything to aspire to.
Aspire to confidence. Aspire to feel pretty and carefree and happy, without needing to look any specific way.
And the next time you see a 13-year-old girl gazing wistfully at a blemish-free, shiny-haired Bollywood actress on a magazine cover, but the myth of flawlessness for her.
Tell her how beautiful she is. Praise her smile or her laugh or her mind or her gait.
Don’t let her grow up believing that she’s flawed, or that there’s anything she’s lacking for looking different from a woman on a billboard. Don’t let her hold herself to a standard that’s too high, even for the women on the billboards.
Be happy with the way ALLAH created you. Do not chase illusions and myths of perfection & flawlessness. As Muslims let us work toward perfecting our inner self (nafs) and our manners, behaviour and akhlaaq (character).
The Fashion Trap
While it is absolutely correct that one should not judge a book by its cover, often the cover does indicate what the book contains. When one possesses the true love of Allah Ta‘ala and His beloved Rasul (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) in the heart, that love will certainly manifest itself in all one’s actions and deeds. It will also dictate one’s likes and dislikes. The true love for Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) will make one love every aspect of his way of life. It will also generate the deep dislike for the way of life of his enemies.
Modern-day fashions, the creations of those who reject Allah Ta‘ala and His Rasul (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), are in direct opposition to the mode of dress that Islam advocates for men and women. But alas, Muslims also take pride in donning the fashions of the west, the very west which hates Islam and the Muslims to the core.
However, with the various efforts of Deen, a consciousness has gradually been created and many people have abandoned the way of life of the West and adopted the sunnah.
As far as dressing is concerned, numerous males, young and old, have happily adopted the kurtah. They even find it more comfortable than the stuffy coat and they have been relieved of the western noose around their necks – the tie. Similarly, many women have adopted cloaks when they have to leave the home out of necessity rather than parade shamelessly. However, the Shayateen have not spared the cloak as well.
The new “fashion” (may Allah Ta‘ala save us) is attractive, multi-colored ladies cloaks with designer names boldly emblazoned on them. The purpose of the cloak for women is to conceal oneself in a plain, unattractive garment so that the attention of strange men is not drawn towards one. Parading with bold designer labels and other eye-catching accessories is in reality tantamount to screaming out: “Please look at me. See what I am wearing!” The evil of riyaa (ostentation) literally drips from such labels.
It is reported in a narration that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said: “The one who will wear clothing of show in this world, Allah Ta‘ala will clothe him with clothing of disgrace on the Day of Qiyaamah”. (Sunan Abi Dawood #4031).
The same applies to the fashionable kurtas worn by many males with Western brand names and logos. Although, it is definitely better than wearing the clothing of the Kuffaar, it is still within the ‘fashion trap’ that they have set for us. Let us escape from the traps of fashion and enter completely into the simple ways of the sunnah.