Tame your wild horse before it tramples all over you!
Your lust is a bad desire of your nafs. So imagine your nafs to be a wild horse that needs to be tamed. It will be extremely painful as those who have ever tried to tame a wild horse will know. If they were to give up due to the pain, the horse would overpower them, throw them off and most probably trample them to death. But if the horseman is perseverant despite the pain, he will eventually calm the horse and end up being in control.
Its the same with your nafs. Trying to tame it will be extremely painful, because you will have to force yourself to resist the desires of your soul that you are so used to giving in to. But giving in to your lusts will darken and kill your soul. So its time to tame your nafs. Everytime you have an urge to go back to sinning, force yourself to stop. Remind yourself that Allah is watching you. InshaAllah, it will eventually become easier until a time when your nafs will no longer desire to fulfil its lust in a haraam manner. It will rather, desire purity and eemaan. So come on, ‘no pain, no gain’!
Or, think of this:
Imagine the pain you will feel at initially supressing your desire. Its bad huh? Well if you don’t stop the sin, the pain you will feel when you are punished in Hell will be absolutely incomparable to any pain you feel now. It’ll be worse that the worst pain you can imagine. So the pain of taming yourself in this life will be well worth it!
There is a way back through Sincere Tawbah
Do not despair, for Allah the Most Exalted and Glorified said in the Quran in Surah 39, Verse 53 “Say: Oh my servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the mercy of Allah, for Allah forgives all sins; for He is oft-Forgiving, most Merciful.”
On the authority of Anas, who said: I heard the messenger of Allah say: “Allah the Almighty has said: “O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. O son of Adam, were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the earth and were you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as its.”
There are four conditions to true repentance:
1- Stop the sin.
2- Regret deeply and truly for the sin you committed.
3- Return to Allah for forgiveness.
4- Have a strong intention never to return to that same sin again.
*5- If your sin involved wronging someone else, then you must seek their forgiveness and try to undo the wrong done to them.
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Conceal your sins, its an obligation!
In addition to making sincere tawbah, you must also conceal yourselves with the concealment of Allaah, and not tell anyone about the sin you have committed. The Prophet (saw) said: “Avoid these filthy things that Allaah has forbidden. Whoever has done any of them, let him conceal himself with the concealment of Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted.” Narrated by al-Bayhaqi and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah, no. 663.
There are blessings in following Allah’s way
The union between a man and a woman is a special gift which has been given by Allaah (SWT) . It is one of the bounties of this life and, as such, it should be treated accordingly. It is a relationship that should be based upon love, compassion, and concern for the other. It is an act of charity for which Allaah (SWT) will reward both partners. The Prophet (sws) said: “In having intercourse (with your wife) there is an act of charity (for which you shall be rewarded).” The companions (ra) said, “O Messenger of Allaah, one of us fulfills his desires and he will be rewarded for that?” He (sws) said: “Do you not see that if he fulfills it in a forbidden way that he will have its burden (it being a sin). In the same way if he fulfills it in a permissible way, he shall have a reward.” [Muslim]
SubhaanAllah! There is no fruit more sweeter and more satisfying than that called ‘patience’. So remember Allah’s Promise to you, when He(swt) says in Surah Fatir, Verses 5-6: “O Mankind indeed the promise of Allah is the truth so let not worldly life delude you and be not deceived about Allah by the deceiver (Satan). Indeed Satan is an enemy to you so take him as an enemy. He only invites his party to be among the companions of the blaze”.
Lets hold tight to the rope of Allah together, its the only way of finding pure satisifaction and eternal Jannah!!!