Nasihah (Advice): Gifting one’s children equally
Aamir reports: I heard Nu’man Bin Bashir Radhiyallahu Anhu on the pulpit saying, “My father gave me a gift but ‘Amra bint Rawaha (my mother) said, “I would not agree to it unless Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam is made witness to it.” So my father went to Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam and said, “I have given a gift to my son from ‘Amra bint Rawaha, but she ordered me to make you a witness to it, O Rasool of Allah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam!” He (Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) asked, “Have you given the like of it to all of your sons?” He replied, “No.” Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said, “Fear Allah, and be just to your children.” Nu’man Bin Bashir Radhiallahu Anhu says, “My father then returned and took back his gift.” (Bukhari)
Question and Answer:
- Slmz, I’d like to find out, I am 18 years old and my brother is 25 years old. My father has given my brother a car but has not given me a car. Is it my father’s responsibility Islamically to give me a car also just as he has given my brother a car? Do I not have a right as my brother also?
- It is the duty of parents that they maintain equality whilst gifting to their children during their lifetime. To give preference to one child over another during one’s lifetime due to a valid reason will be permissible. Eg. one child is more in need than the other child. However, to do so without a valid reason will be Makrooh (disliked). (Shaami 4/444)
In the enquired case, it is possible that your father has given preference to your brother as he may be more in need of a car than you. Later on, if you are in need of a car, your father should do the same for you.
Note: In such circumstances, parents should discuss these types of matters amongst their children to avoid any future disputes.
And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Mufti Ebrahim Desai
(Islamic rulings on this Q&A newsletter are answered in accordance to the Hanafi Fiqh)
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