Sad state of the Muslim ummah today especially the youth.
By Ameera Al Hakawati, 7:00 pm Tuesday, 5th August 2014
There’s nothing quite like a herd of hijabis behaving horrendously to start a debate amongst Muslims, writesAmeera Al Hakawati. But maybe it’s time “modern” Muslimahs realise they need to turn it down a notch.
Adam Saleh posted this selfie from a police car (Image: Twitter)
I will confess that I had no idea who Adam Saleh – one half of the TrueStoryASA duo – was until my little sister asked me to take her to London’s Hyde Park on Sunday.
The meet-up was scheduled for 3:00pm, but my little sister forced us to get there early so we wouldn’t be at the back of the queue. Strolling into the park at 1:45pm by Marble Arch, we saw clusters of young girls, many in hijab, eating ice cream and waiting in eager anticipation. Some had been there since 9:00am, assuming that the setup would be similar to his Dubai meet-up. But there wasn’t a queue, barrier or podium in sight.
As 3:00pm drew closer, the area of the park closest to the arch began to fill up. And while there hadn’t been more than 50 girls when we first arrived, now there were hundreds of teenagers bouncing around, each and every one anxious to marry Adam – or, at the very least, get a selfie with him. There were even quite a few adolescent boys lurking in the corners, trying to act aloof and indifferent.
I wondered how the crowd was going to be managed – but then, these were Muslim girls. It wasn’t a football match, so how bad could it get?
After a few false alarms, with someone screaming and pointing “ADAM!!!” causing hordes of girls to run in that direction – even running across roads with oncoming traffic – I decided to leave my sister with her friends and meet her afterwards. I was much too old for this malarkey.
As I walked away from the crowds, I saw Adam in the distance with a couple of other people walking towards the arch. Seconds later, he was spotted by fans. All you could hear were screams and thuds as a stampede of women swarmed him, almost knocking him off his feet. The shrieking, shoving, pulling, grabbing, yanking and clawing created hysteria bordering on horrific.
One fan pulled his baseball cap off and another grabbed his hair, and that was it. The mob had completely surrounded him. He had nowhere to go, his words inaudible over the shrieks of hysterical hijabis. Scarves were being torn off heads as girls desperately tried to grab a piece of him.
When he somehow managed to disentangle himself from the mob, he began to climb the gate of Marble Arch like Spiderman – maybe for his own safety, perhaps to get a better view, possibly to let everyone see him clearly. Whatever his reasons, it didn’t stop the sprightly teenagers who simply started climbing right up after him.
And then came the welcome song of sirens as a police car drew up and extricated poor Adam from the scene. Disappointed, the fans slowly dispersed and consoled themselves with pictures of Sheikh Akbar instead. And one girl (again, in hijab) kindly massaged Sheikh’s shoulders while he took pictures.
Now, I’m all up for having a good time.But watching the scene as a spectator was particularly eye-opening. The last time I’d witnessed something similar was at Masjid al-Haram with hordes of Muslims trying to reach the black stone. The realisation that these girls are the Muslimahs of tomorrow was not only saddening, but also scary.
What has happened to us?
The issue is no longer about Muslim girls wearing revealing clothes. It’s not about wearing hijab with skinny jeans (actually, scratch that – I saw a hijabi in a sleeveless vest there and one with a knee-length split up the side of her skirt).
It’s about conduct. Dignity. Self-respect.
Since when is it okay for any decent, respectable human society to swarm a boy, pull his hat off and grab his hair? There was a time when the image of a woman in hijab was synonymous with all three. Today, in our haste to become trendy, in our eagerness to fit in and because of our fear of seeming judgmental, we sit back and watch our younger sisters behaving like a bunch of depraved lunatics.
It’s about the way they behaved, like starved orphans with a morsel of meat dangled in front of them. Did I say doe-eyed and blushing earlier? Some of them were, especially the lovely ones I met. But most of these girls could give football hooligans a run (and climb) for their money.
It didn’t end there either. Twitter and Instagram have been abuzz with the topic of Adam Saleh, with some girls (yes, in hijab) declaring that they got to kiss Adam with unconcealed and unabashed pride. The “haram police” had an absolute field day, with some likening Adam to Dajjal. Not cool. But then some of their comments – such as questioning the integrity of these Muslimahs – were spot on.
Poor Adam took it in stride, though.
As bewildered as he obviously was, he kept his cool and managed to keep his fans happy, even tweeting about another impromptu meet-up after he left the police station (the tweet was wisely deleted soon after). According to police he was not arrested, though they did provide “advice regarding organising large-scale events”.
And as for his fans? I have no solution to what is clearly something fundamentally wrong with our society. Is it a lack of role models? Is it just the fact that 2014 has posed too many challenges and temptations? Is it globalisation and the rise of social media?
Rising costs making a dent in marriage dreams
JEDDAH: NADIM AL-HAMID
Published — Sunday 31 August 2014
Wedding bells are not chiming for many. From flowers to wedding halls, the cost of getting hitched is making it difficult for many families to cater for the day of their dreams.
Young couples are now calling upon authorities to help lower and monitor the rental prices of wedding halls.
Wedding costs have skyrocketed, particularly during the Eid Al-Fitr holiday, when most couples around the Kingdom tie the knot to take advantage of the holiday season and then continue with wedding celebrations.
Wedding halls charge anywhere between SR20,000 to SR70,000 a night, prompting residents to demand that authorities regulate fees based on services and venue classifications.
Groom-to-be Hussain Taleb described the process as being a reverse auction, in which halls owners compete to raise prices.
“Such costs are driving more young people to take out loans, starting their new lives in debt,” Taleb told Arab News.
Abdul Rahman Khaled said owners are asking for exorbitant prices after luring couples with bogus advertisements.
“They even refuse to negotiate their prices. This has caused many couples to avoid getting married altogether because not everybody has the money,” Khaled said.
Majed Al-Zahrani said wedding halls give varying prices to costumers thanks to high demand.
“I call upon hall owners to take these young people’s financial situation into account and lower their prices,” he said.
Jamiat Comment: This seems to be a problem worldwide as:
Muslims move away from the Sunnah(lifestyle) Of Nabi Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam which instructs us in simplicity and not extravagance in all aspects of our life especially also in our Nikahs and married lives. Muslims are imitating and aping the west and non-muslim customs in marriages.
Forget wedding halls and western wedding gowns etc. Have a simple wedding at home.
The Hadith of our Beloved MASTER NABI sallallahu alayhi wa sallam:
The greatest Nikah in blessings(barakah) is that which has the Least expenditure.