Doing small acts of kindness constantly and making them a habit can help us in softening our hearts and to bring us closer to Allah. Some of us may not even know the hardness of our hearts and thus striving to look for opportunities to do good deeds can help us stay clear of such a state.
Consider the story about the man who came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) complaining that his heart was hard. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to him, “Would you like your heart to become soft and to get what you want? Show mercy to the orphan, pat his head, feed him from your own food, and your heart will become soft and you will get what you want.” (Hadeeth reported by al-Tabaraani; there are also corroborating reports. See al-Silsilat al-Saheehah, 2/533).
Let’s push ourselves to show such acts of kindness whenever we can and let’s encourage our families to do the same.