Nasihah (Advice): The abhorrence of Talaaq
Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar Radhiyallahu Anhuma narrated that Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam said, “The most hated of permissible things to Allah is divorce. ” (Ibn Majah)
Question and Answer:
- Please clarify.
She may apply make-up and beautify herself during this Iddat, as it is also a time given for reconciling the marriage. (See complete Q&A here)
If a reconciliation takes place, how does the marriage get re-instated as Talaaq has been issued.
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- When one or two Talaaqs have been issued, there is scope of reconciliation. Though the Talaaq issued has the effect of divorce, it is not fully effective until the end of the Iddah period. Upon the termination of the Iddah, the full effect of the divorced is now realised and the wife is free to marry another if she chooses to do so.
If within the Iddah period, the husband tells his wife, “I take you back in my Nikah” or if he is physically intimate with her, then the Talaaq is considered revoked and the Nikah comes into effect once again.
It should be noted that though the Talaaq is revoked, it is still counted. Hence, if one Talaaq was given, only two remain and if two Talaaqs were given, only one remains.
In the case where three Talaaqs are given, there is no scope of reconciliation and the marriage is completely ended. The laws of Iddah will nonetheless apply and in this case the wife is not allowed to beautify herself as reconciliation is not possible.
Important Note: It is impermissable to issue Three Talaaqs at once and it is extremely important for a husband to exercise the utmost restraint in matters of Talaaq irrespective of how angry or upset he may be. The effect of Three Talaaqs issued together or separately would be a complete termination of the marriage without scope of reconciliation. We cannot stress enough on how destructive it is to issue Three Talaaqs. Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam was once informed of a person issuing Three Talaaqs and he became so angered by this that a Sahaabi stood up and asked whether he should execute this person. (Nasaai)
And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
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