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The Harm of Arguing

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Once we had undertaken a journey with Hadrat Hakim Akhtar Saheb R.A to Nairobi and then we went for Umrah. We travelled from Nairobi to Mombasa for a day. We were travelling by plane and the plane was quite empty. The seats in front were quite close as it was a small aircraft. There wasn’t enough room space for the legs. We pushed the front seats down which made it much more comfortable. The crew members did not object. The next night we left Mombasa. The flight was delayed.

We were supposed to depart at ten o’ clock but we departed at twelve. Again the aircraft was almost empty and we did the same thing again. The crew objected this time claiming that it is against regulations and the seats should be put up at all times. One person that was with us began arguing with the crew and this argument lasted until we reached Nairobi. Hadrat Hakim Saheb taught us a great lesson. When the argument was taking place, many things were being said from both sides. When we landed, the aircraft had communicated via the two way radio and the police were waiting in the terminal. They said that there was a drunk passenger that was fighting on the aircraft. The police took this person and began interrogating him. We lost another hour waiting for him. By the time we reached our place it was three o’ clock and it was Ramdaan. Hadrat Hakim Saheb didn’t say anything but the next day he said that if a person learns to forgo an argument there is a lot of goodness in it.

Sometimes four of five people are travelling in a car and whilst travelling one person might start an argument which continues, then tempers fly, a person cannot control his fist. Sometimes a person hits another person and the police come to the scene and arrest the person for assault. Sometimes a person may not be guilty but he is jailed till Monday morning as he was arrested on a Friday. So, a person has to undergo so much of inconvenience as he wanted to prove his point.

However, if a person learns to forgive, forgo and not fall into arguments then he is saved from all such problems. The next day Hadrat Hakim Saheb also taught us that Hadrat Thanwi R.A said, “When one does not fall into the arguments of mankind he will be free for the Ibaadat of Allah Taála.” Many times we fall into arguments, after the argument, a person’s mind works for weeks or even months and one thinks that I should have told him this or that. I should have done this or that to him. The Namaaz of a person is also occupied in that argument. Whilst reciting Quraan, his mind is occupied in the argument. A person’s mind is working all the time and one’s enmity is growing.

If a person forgoes his right even though he is entitled to such a right, he will enjoy peace of mind in his Ibaadat, with his family, etc. A person should learn to forgive and forget when arguments take place between husband and wife, between brothers, or between parents and children. We should take the lesson of the Quraan Sharif and forgive as Yusuf Alaihis Salaam had done. By doing so, he proved to be a very honourable person. The very brothers that hated him now began to love him.

By Moulana Ridwaan Kajee (dB)

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