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20 things you should be doing for hubby

20 things you should be doing for hubby on a regular basis

You may not like all of them. Do them anyway — and see what happens.


  • Despite popular belief, marriage is not about give and take. It’s about give and give — on both sides. Here are 20 simply humble ways to show your hubby that you support him in every aspect of your marriage.
  • 1. Don’t talk about him behind his back

    If there are any issues driving a wedge in your relationship, skip the venting session with girlfriends, and talk to your husband first. “Husband shaming” helps no one.

  • 2. Brag about him when he’s not around

    If you hear anything negative said about your other half — even in jest — step up and defend him. Show that your marriage is full of strength and unity.

  • 3. Pray for him — daily

    The only way to make a united marriage even stronger is to put God (ALLAH) at the head of it.

  • 4. Bake the man some cookies

    As frivolous as it may sound, this comforting gesture goes a long way.

  • 5. Strengthen his servitude

    If your man spends what little free time he has serving his community (or Masjid), you may feel a bit lonesome. Just remember that others may be in need of his service too.

  • 6. Don’t nag

    Spend more time focusing on what hubby does do and less on what he doesn’t do.

  • 7. Voice your gratitude

    Don’t save your thanks for the big things. Your husband shows his love for you in many simple ways. Return the favor, and thank him sincerely for all the little things.

  • 8. Praise his work

    Whether your husband sits at a desk all day, shuttles the kids all around town or puts his life on the line for his country, tell him how much you appreciate his hard work and sacrifice.

  • 9. Encourage his hobbies

    Dust off your old golf clubs and hit the green with him! If you don’t enjoy the same activities, arrange an outing for him and his buddies every once in a while.

  • 10. Build financial unity

    If you are constantly complaining about money, you might be making hubby feel unappreciated or undervalued.

  • 11. Show him you have faith in him

    No one is perfect. We all fail sometimes. If your husband is the primary provider, he may feel a lot of pressure to be the best. Find ways to show him that you love and believe in him no matter what happens.

  • 12. Kiss him — passionately!

    When he leaves for work, when he comes home, or just because you locked eyes from across the room — I challenge you to do this at least once a day.

  • 13. Call him courageous

    From going off to war to opening their hearts to those in need, our men show their courage in a myriad of ways. Recognize your husband’s resolutions, however great or small they seem.

  • 14. Make your home a safe haven

    Keep your home a happy place for your husband to find comfort and refuge from whatever the outside world throws at him.

  • 15. Love his family

    They say that when you marry your spouse, you marry his entire family. While some families are much closer than others, it’s important to love the people who made your husband who he is. You don’t have to agree with or even get along with them. But truly love them.

  • 16. Take him out on a date!

    Change things up! Surprise your husband with a night out where he doesn’t have to plan a thing.

  • 17. Discover his sexual needs

    Newsflash, ladies: Intimacy is one of your husband’s basic needs. Communication is key in making those special experiences better for both of you.

  • 18. Baby him when he’s sick

    Men like to be tough. They are natural providers. But when they get sick, they turn back into those little boys who just want to be comforted. Give your hubby that moment, and when he’s feeling better, let him go back to “superman mode.”

  • 19. Cook his favorite meal

    As the primary cook for my family, I plan our menu around whatever I happen to be in the mood for — and what the kids will actually eat. Not very often does my husband ask me to whip up a rib-eye with a side of rib-eye (yes, that’s his favorite meal). So, when he does ask, I know I’ve neglected this one far too long.

  • 20. Don’t argue with him in front of the kids

    And never pit the kids against him, forcing them to choose sides. Keep your marital issues between you and your husband.

    You and your husband have a one-of-a-kind marriage, and these ideas are just the beginning. Try implementing a few, and watch your relationship flourish and grow.

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