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An Important Lesson for Married Couples

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This post is primarily directed at men, however it applies to women also.
Sometimes women do not get attracted to the looks of the male, rather they get attracted to his wealth,position,power etc.

 

ذهب أحدهم إلى عالم دين مشهور بالحكمة والتجربة يشتكي ويقول :
حين أعجبت بزوجتي ، كانت في نظري كأن الله لم يخلق مثلها في العالم!

Once, a man approached a scholar renowned for his profound wisdom and experience, to complain to him, saying: “When I was fascinated by my wife, she was, in my sight the most beautiful thing in this world ever created by Allāh.”

ولما خطبتها : رأيت الكثيرات مثلها!

“When I proposed to her, I began to see others equal to her in beauty.”

ولما تزوجتها : رأيت الكثيرات أجمل منها!

“When I married her, I saw many others who were more elegant than her!”

فلما مضت بضعة أعوام على زواجنا رأيت أن : كلُّ النَسَاءِ أحْلَى مِنْ زَوجَتِي !

“A few years after our marriage, it appears to me as though all the women of this world are more classic and more sophisticated than my wife!”

فقال الحكيم : أفأخبرك بما هو أدهى من ذلك وأمرّ ؟!

The wise man: “Shall I tell you what is more disastrous and more bitter?”

قال الرجل : نعم !

The man replied: “Yes.”

فقال الحكيم : ولو أنك تزوجت كل نساء العالمين، لرأيتَ الكلاب الضالة في شوارع المناطق الشعبية؛ أجمل من كلّ نساء العالمين!

The wise man: “Were you to marry all the women in this world, you will find the straying dogs on the highways more attractive than all the women of the world!”

قال الرجل: لماذا تقول ذلك ؟

The man: “Why do you say so?”

فقال الحكيم : لأن المشكلة ليست في زوجتك! المشكلة أن الإنسان إذا أوتي قلباً طمّاعاً، وبصراً زائغاً، وخلا من الحياء من الله ؛ فإنه لا يمكن أن يملأ عينه إلا تراب مقبرته . يا رجل ! مشكلتك أنك لا تغضّ بصرك عما حرّم الله. أتريد شيئاً ترجع به امرأتك إلى سالف عهدها (أجمل نساء العالم) ؟

The wise man: “Because the problem is not with your wife. The problem is, if a person were gifted a covetous heart and lustful eyes, and he is lacking in bashfulness, nothing satisfies his gaze except the sand of his grave. Your problem is, you do not lower your gaze from what Allāh has prohibited. Do you want your wife to be returned to her previous lofty position as the most beautiful woman on earth?

قال الرجل : نعم .

The man: “Yes.”

فقال الحكيم : اغضض بصرك ..
قال تعالى : ( قُلْ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُم ۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَزْكَىٰ لَهُمْ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا يَصْنَعُون َ) !
ما ليس في يديك ستراه أنه أجمل و أفضل مما عندك و عندما تحصل عليه سيصبح عاديا فارض بما لديك و لا تكن أنانيا تلهث وراء جماليات الدنيا حتى تسقط في قبرك
هناك ما هو أجمل و أروع من كل هذا عبادة الله و العمل الصالح لذة لا يعرفها الا من عاش لأجلها
لا تنس ادع الله أن يجمل زوجتك دائما في عينك و أن يرزقك حبها
لطفا
The wise man: “Lower your gaze. Allāh says, “Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allāh is All-Aware of what they do.”

That which is not in your possession will always appear to you to be better and more precious than what is in your possession. But once you lay your hands on it, it becomes ordinary. Be content with what you possess and do not be selfish, courting all that glitter till you land in your grave.

The worship of Allāh is better and more attractive. The sweetness of good deeds are only appreciated by those who live for it. Finally, do not forget to invoke Allāh to always beautify your Spouse in your sight and grant you his or her love and compassion.

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