By M.B. Ahmed
At times in your everyday life you come across someone who persistently harasses you. He always shouts at you, insults you, makes you feel degraded and annoys you in a number of other ways.
In that situation you might feel there is no one for you, no one who can help you.
You are gravely mistaken here.
Someone is always there for you and for all of Us !
That ‘Someone’ is of course Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala!
He is always there for us! We have to have complete Tawakkul in Him.
Tawakkul is having full faith that Allah will take care of you, even when things look impossible.
Make du’aa to Him with all sincerity and He will insha Allah accept your du’aa and help you.
Du’aa of an Oppressed Person
Mu’adh ibn Jabal reported: The Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said,:
“Beware of the supplication of the oppressed, for there is no veil between it and Allah.”
Source: Sahih al-Bukhari 4347
When you repeatedly find yourself in the situation mentioned earlier, you are bound to get frustrated and this frustration may lead you to lose your temper beyond restraint. This uncontrolled anger, besides taking a toll on our health, can also have numerous other negative effects.
The best action you can take at that moment is to suppress your anger.
Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said, “Whoever suppresses his rage while he is capable of unleashing it, then Allah will fill him with assurance and faith.” And the Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم recited the verse, “They are those who suppress their rage and forgive people, for Allah loves those who do good.” (3:134) Source: Tafsir al-Tabari 3:134
Narrated Abu Huraira (radhiAllahu ‘anhu): Allah’s Messenger صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said, “The strong is not the one who overcomes people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger.”
Sahih al-Bukhari 6114
There are a number of ways we can overcome this anger. Given below are a few of these ways:
- Reciting ‘A’uzubillah Minashaitan Nirajeem’.
- Making Ablution.
The Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم advised us that performing ablution was an acceptable method of anger management. Atiyya reported: The Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said, “Verily, anger comes from Shaytan and Shaytan was created from fire. Fire is extinguished with water, so if you become angry then perform ablution with water.”
Source: Sunan Abu Dawood 4784
- Changing your Position.
Abu Dharr reported: The Messenger of Allah صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said to us, “If one of you is angry while he is standing, let him sit down so his anger will leave him; otherwise, let him lie down.”
Source: Sunan Abu Dawood 4782
- And, last but not least,Remaining Silent.
The Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said, “…whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should speak what is good or keep silent.” Sahih al Bukhari and Muslim.
Abu Huraira reported: A man reviled (criticised in an abusive manner) Abu Bakr while Nabi صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم was sitting there. That made the Prophet impressed (by Abu Bakr) and he smiled. Then, when (the reviling) became too much, Abu Bakr responded to the man with the same words as him and the Prophet became angry and he left. Abu Bakr followed the Prophet and he said, “O Messenger of Allah, the man reviled me and you were sitting, but when I responded you became angry and stood up.” The Prophet صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم said, “Verily, there was an angel with you responding on your behalf, but Shaytan appeared when you responded with some of the words and I will not sit in the presence of Shaytan.”
Source: Musnad Aḥmad 9411
Some Tips on Remaining Silent
- Speech is Silver, Silence is Golden. Sorry, Silence is not Golden anymore, it’s PLATINUM!
- A fool is known by his speech and a wise man by his silence.
- Never argue with a fool, onlookers may not be able to see the difference.
- Silence is a source of Great Strength.
- Some people can’t function without negativity because bringing down others makes them feel better.
- Allow your enemies their space to hate, they will be destroyed in the process.
- Silence is the fence around wisdom. If your foot slips, you can regain your balance. But if your tongue slips, then you can never revoke the harm created by the words that your tongue has uttered. So think before saying anything in anger.