N = Nurturing
E = Education
E = Example
D = Du‘aa
As I walked out of the musjid, an eye-catching poster filled with colour begged for my attention. It was a report-back on Syria by an ‘Aalim scheduled for the forthcoming night. I cancelled my soccer to attend the very promising program. As the Moulana recounted his first-hand experiences, the merciless butchering of our youth and innocent children in Syria, I could not help but shed tears at their pitiable plight.
That night I dashed straight home, not wasting a minute at the car park with friends which was my daily practice, only to find my children asleep. Hugging and kissing them, against my norm, I thanked Allah Ta‘ala for the bounty of having my children hale and hearty.
While the loss of the youth of Syria to the blood thirsty regime of their country is extremely heart-rending, the loss of our youth to the scourge of “SATANIC CULTS”, to the night clubs and cinemas and to the drugs lords of our neighbourhood is equally tragic. If we ever want to peek into our future, then glance at the morals and values of our youth. The building blocks of our future are being moulded in our hands.
N = Nurturing:
Our children are our future. The upbringing we imbue within them now will play out in their lives tomorrow. Firstly we need to condition our minds, that their success as human beings depends on deen. Therefore, we should channel our efforts into instilling Islamic values within them. The ball is in our court. Invest in them and secure your sadaqah jaariyah, or neglect them only to cry later on: “Oh Bheta! Why are you putting me in an old age home?” “Oh my Muhammad! Why you don’t worry about me anymore?” “Oh my Yusuf! You don’t visit me after you got married!”
E = Education:
This is our responsibility and not that of the maktab teacher. They only do us a favour by easing our load. ‘Abdullah bin ‘Abbaas (radhiyallahu ‘anhuma) has reported his personal experience at a very tender age with Nabi (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). He says: “One day I was seated behind Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) on a conveyance, when He said to me, ‘O young lad! Let me teach you a few statements. Protect Allah’s deen and He will protect you. Remain within the limitations set down by Allah Ta‘ala and you will find Him (His mercy and help) ahead of you. When you beg, beg of Allah. When you seek assistance, seek it from Allah. Know very well that if the entire world gathers to benefit you, then they will not be able to render more benefit than that which Allah Ta‘ala has predestined for you, and if they gather to harm you then they will not be able to cause more harm than that which Allah Ta‘ala has predestined against you. The pen (of destiny) has been lifted and the scrolls have dried up.’” (Sunan Tirmizi #2516) A famous slogan we chant is: “He is still small.” Well, in the above hadeeth, Nabi (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) teaches the basic articles of imaan to ‘Abdullah bin ‘Abbaas (radhiyallahu ‘anhuma) who was still a child.
A simple starting point would be: Sit together as one family unit and dedicate a few minutes for recitation of the Quraan Majeed, ta’leem of Fazaaile Aa’maal and some collective du‘aa.
E = Example:
Our children are our CCTV (Child’s Careful Thoughtful Vision). They absorb our every move and replay it when faced with similar situations. Therefore, we need to walk the talk, and they will follow suit. This is the easiest method to teach our children. The famous adage goes “An apple does not fall far from the tree.” Hence let us lead by example.
D = Du‘aa:
Supplicating to Allah Ta‘ala for their earthly and spiritual success was the hallmark of our pious predecessors. Ebrahim (‘alaihis salaam) implored unto Allah Ta‘ala: “O Allah! I have settled my children in a barren land (Makkah Mukarramah) by Your sacred house so that they may establish salaah … O Allah! Grant me and my offspring the ability to be punctual with salaah.” (Surah Ebrahim v37 & 40)
Deep-rooted concern for the deen of one’s children is a salient quality of the true servants of Allah Ta‘ala, as highlighted in Surah Furqaan (v74), by means of the following supplication: “O our Rabb! Make our spouses and offspring the coolness of our eyes (by making them obedient to you) and make us leaders (and examples) to those who fear You.”
Dedicate time daily to cry for them, before they make you cry.
Stand up to the “NEED” and Allah Ta‘ala will infuse the “DEEN.”
Reverse the word “NEED”, and that is their need (i.e. deen).